What we want to let you know is why they say ‘won’t do it again’…
Why do they make the same mistakes again? The reason lies in the scumbag’s unique ‘passing through without reflection’ survival strategy, also known as the ‘habit of escaping reality.’
Because they don’t want to face reality, don’t want to face themselves, and are afraid of seriously facing others, they repeatedly fall into the same patterns. And a woman’s embrace is the most suitable harbor for them.
Always saying ‘won’t do it again,’ but their words are empty
To all the women who have been cheated on, betrayed multiple times, and still find themselves being spun around by the words ‘won’t do it again.’
Why do they say ‘won’t do it again’? Why do they make the same mistakes?
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The reason lies in the scumbag’s unique ‘passing through without reflection’ survival strategy, which is the ‘habit of escaping reality.’Because they don’t want to face reality, don’t want to face themselves, and are afraid of seriously facing others, they repeatedly fall into the same patterns. And a woman’s embrace is the most suitable harbor for them.
As long as they escape to the side of a woman who needs them, they don’t have to face themselves or reality, and they can still believe that they are valuable. But the more they avoid, the less they understand themselves. Gradually, their words and actions contradict each other.
Even if the words they say are not what they truly think or feel, they still spout them out to get through the current crisis.
how can you trust the others?
So, how can you trust other people?
It’s simply by observing their ‘plans to avoid repeating the same mistakes’ and ‘the specific actions they will take in the future.’
If they have cheated on you, it could be something like ‘I will never drink alcohol again’ or ‘I will increase the frequency of communication and the number of times we meet to regain your trust.’
In addition, it is important for them to explicitly say ‘I’m sorry’ and show a reflective attitude.
Even if they have caused trouble for someone else, as long as they thoroughly reflect on their mistakes and make a change, they are not scumbags but honest men.
Observe whether they can apologize, reflect, and take action
‘You should know this without me saying it’ – forcing you to accept their ideas. Human communication can be roughly divided into two types. One is verbal communication, and the other is non-verbal communication through gestures and attitudes.
Scumbags generally avoid verbal communication
Scumbags generally avoid verbal communication because they find it very troublesome to communicate with others using words. Therefore, they come up with twisted methods to end communication quickly using violence.
For them, violence is also a language, a means to instantly control the other person. After tasting the pleasure, they consider verbal communication stupid because it takes time and patience.
Of course, not all men who avoid verbal communication resort to violence. However, people who find verbal communication troublesome usually opt for easier methods beyond words.
Being impatience
‘Impatience’ is similar to violence because it conveys the message that speaking is bothersome and attempts to make the other person understand through attitude.
Therefore, the statement ‘you should know this without me saying it’ may hide violence or impatience.
Before getting into a relationship, their inner demons may not have emerged yet. Hence, it is essential to pay special attention to statements similar to violence or impatience.
Men who disdain verbal communication may be scumbags.
Why do we keep attracting scumbags?
Do you feel like all the good men have been taken? Even scarier, you know he’s a scumbag, but you still find yourself falling for him? For the sake of happiness, you must stay away from this kind of love that has glass shards in the sugar, feces in the glass shards, and poison in the feces! If you feel that happiness is far away from you right now, then you need to say goodbye to the scum.
He might be a scumbag
Remember, do not choose this kind of man! The first step is to identify the scumbag and eliminate him before getting involved. If he exhibits the following characteristics, he might be a ‘scumbag.’
- Answers your questions with questions (doesn’t respond directly)
- Only contacts you when he has free time
- Lacks self-discipline
- Restrains you and says, ‘It’s best not to fall in love with me.’
- Likes to boast about how popular he is or the bad things he has done in the past
- Says, ‘There are others who can bring you more happiness than me.’
If you know he’s a scumbag but can’t let go, it’s because you possess the following traits:
- Lack a deep understanding of your inner world
- Have a low threshold for ‘liking’ someone
- Don’t ask questions
- Believe you can change the other person
- Blame yourself too easily
These psychological traits make it difficult for you to escape the clutches of a scumbag.
